Creme de la Femme

a 20-something year-old feminist. like it, or shove it.

What the hell have I been doing the last 5 months?

Anndddddd, I’m back!

Hi Tumblr loves! I’m so excited to officially announce that I’m back. Wow, it’s been seven months since I decided to take a break from the blog, and five since I moved from Georgia! A lot has happened since I left.

So, I’ll do a pretty brief catch-up, and let you know what I have planned for the blog. 

As many of you know, I took a somewhat long hiatus from the blog to end my job at a nonprofit in Georgia, move to Perry Point, MD from Georgia, and accept a Field Team :Leader position with AmeriCorps NCCC. The last seven months have been a whirlwind of chaos, adventure and self-discovery. For those of you who aren’t familiar with AmeriCorps NCCC (National Civilian Community Corp), you travel the country with a team of 18-24 year-olds and strengthen communities through team-based community service. You get A LOT done for the organizations you work with, and you help develop leaders. Cool, right? I’ve been supervising a team of 9 since February, and it’s been awesome. 

So, let’s start from the beginning…

In January, I moved my dainty, journalist self from Georgia to Perry Point, MD, where it snowed the first day I arrived, and I met herds of deer as I’ve never seen before. 


I met all 27 of these crazy kids, and we boarded the “crazy train” for NCCC. Then, five of my friends and I published a book,”The 365 Project: The Year of Getting Back to Me.” I finally discovered I loved my natural hair…and then my boyfriend and I of five years broke up.

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My new backyard! Btw, the bay is actually frozen!

My new backyard! Btw, the bay is actually frozen!

Perry Point is beautiful buttttt apparently a strange, mysterious man drives around our campus and feeds the deer herds. He honks and they come running out the woods. #NewmoveNewme

Perry Point is beautiful buttttt apparently a strange, mysterious man drives around our campus and feeds the deer herds. He honks and they come running out the woods. #NewmoveNewme

Facing a double mastectomy, Deb Cohen went into the operating room with joy and excitement. 

"Cohan, an Ob/Gyn and mom of two, held a dance party with her medical team in the operating room of Mt. Zion Hospital in San Francisco," according to the Huffington Post. 

Pure Awesomeness. 

Watch Cohan dance to Beyonce’s “Get Me Bodied.” Right now it has over 400,000 views on YouTube. Cohan also requested her friends and family make videos of themselves dancing to King Bey as well, so that she could watch them during her recovery. You can check them out here: CaringBridge page.

Wishing Deborah a happy and speedy recovery!

WATCH LIVE: U.S. Senate taking historic vote on #ENDA


The Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), will provide basic protections against workplace discrimination to LGBT people and is up for voting today in the U.S. Senate. 

Watch live here as the U.S. Senate takes measures to vote on ENDA today. You can also call your state Senators and ask them to vote ‘Yes,’ on ENDA by clicking here

If the vote fails, LGB people will still be at risk of being fired or denied employment in 29 states; and 33 states for transgender people.

Anyone who votes no is for discrimination and bigotry.

The Girl Declaration

I was not put on this earth to be invisible.
I was not born to be denied.
I was not given life only to belong to someone else.
I belong to me.
I have a voice and I will use it.
I have dreams unforgettable.
I have a name and it is not anonymous.
Or insignificant, or unworthy, or waiting anymore to be called.
Some day they will say this was the moment,
When the world woke up to my potential.
This was the moment I was allowed to be astonishing.
This is the moment when my rising no longer scares you.
This is the moment when being a girl, became my strength, my sanctuary, not my pain.
This is the moment when the world sees that I am held back by every problem and I am key to all solutions.
This is the moment when a girl, and a girl, and a girl, and 250 million other girls say with voices loud that THIS IS OUR MOMENT.
This, yes, is the moment.


Happy International Day of the Girl Child

Copyright Girl Effect

Today, the U.N. declared October 11 as the International Day of the Girl Child! Its mission is “to help galvanize worldwide enthusiasm for goals to better girls’ lives, providing an opportunity for them to show leadership and reach their full potential.”

This year’s theme is “Innovating for Girls’ Education.”

Did you know Girls were left out of the original Millennium Development Goals from the UN? The Girl Declaration has been written to make sure that doesn’t happen again. Bringing together the thinking of 508 girls living in poverty across the globe with the expertise of more than 25 of the world’s leading development organisations, the Girl Declaration is our tool to stop poverty before it starts. It was delivered today, Oct. 11, to the UN, so it would be impossible to ignore girls ever again. You can read the declaration here.

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'Sleepless in Austin' blogger will not date Black girls & other dumb requirements


If you want to make a quick $1,500, look no further. 39-year-old Sleepless in Austin blogger wants you to help him find his dream-girl, but take note, this girl cannot be fat, wear glasses, have tattoos, piercings or gamble. She also, absolutely, cannot be Black, (but if she’s of any other race by all means, send her his way, as long as she meets the other requirements). Oh and she cannot have short hair, unless she’s pretty.

"I will not date a Black girl. I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl."

"However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black."

Yes, folks. This is real.

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The most racist & sexist text messages you’ll ever read

Two former officials in one Pennsylvania school district are facing a criminal investigation when racist and sexists text messages, such as calling African American’s the N-word and insulting Arabs, were discovered on their work cell phones. 

In a transcript, obtained by the Daily Local News of the text messages, they found one of the men suggested all African-Americans should have the N-word as a part of their last name.

“All should have whatever first names they want… then last name is N*GGER!” he wrote. “Leroy N*gger, Preacher N*gger, Night train n*gger, clarence n*gger, Latoya n*gger, Thelma n*gger and so on.”

“Hahahahahahahahhahahahaha could have a whole homeromms of N*gger!” another message said. “Hahahahahahaha! Will N*gger report to office, pardon the interruption but will N*gger report to nurses office. N*gger to lunch now!”

Former Coatesville Area School Superintendent Richard Como and former Director of Athletics and Activities Jim Donato. Both men had unexpectedly resigned during the first week of school in late August.

Trigger Wanner: The following text messages are extremely offensive and have strong racial language. 

Let’s be reminded this transcript is just from June 2013, so I’m sure these racist, sexist, idiots didn’t decide just to be racist and sexist as a part of their summer vacay. Second point, are they suffering from a white supremacist attitude so much that they feel comfortable discussing this on their work phones. 


There are a lot of articles, photos, and gifs in the media detailing the affects of airbrushing and how designers use Photoshop to make celebrities look more “beautiful.” For instance, Buzzfeed posted an article featuring 17 gifs of celebrities before and after being photoshopped. The article is really astonishing.

In light of the protests against Teen Vogue and Seventeen magazine (both of whom did not, though Seventeen said it would, alter their Photoshop policies) earlier this May, Alexandra Shulman, editor of Vogue UK, said they are planning to release a film for schools detailing what happens at a photo shoot in an attempt to promote healthier attitudes towards body image among teens.

The film will detail behind the scenes at a fashion shoot to show “the difference between fashion and reality and how a fashion image is constructed,” she told The Independent.

The film, which is also a part of Vogue ’s Health Initiative, aims topromote healthy body image within the fashion industry through various pledges - “including not using models under the age of 16 and adhering to strict codes of conduct when working with models such as ensuring they are provided with sufficient healthy food, privacy and rest,” according to The Telegraph. 

"It’s basically a huge team of people that go in to create the image, of which retouching is the icing on the cake," she said. "You can do far more with lighting and make-up," according to Shulman. 

Looking at the above photos, it seems that there is a lot more retouching and airbrushing that goes into a celebrities appearance than Shulman or other fashion editors and designers  are willing to admit. 

Though Vogue’s efforts are commendable, making a film about the fashion industry’s post-production work, ultimately will not be that helpful in curbing the bombarding problematic images of beauty and weight maintenance that pervade our media. Not only are the images photoshopped and airbrushed, many of the women, Kim Kardashion and Penelope Cruz have obviously had there skin lightened. 

I personally, would love to see a celebrity who is brave enough to ask not to be photoshopped, but I’ll hold my breath. 

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